用身心靈去看世界【一】－《自由，夢想與心愿》/ Look at the world with Body, Mind And Soul [1] -《Freedom, Dream and Wish》

“自由”，相信是每個人渴望所擁有的。我更相信“夢想”是每個人必定去追求的，以便完成或實現個人心目中的“心愿”。如果您有個夢想，有個心愿，那個夢想做了或實現了後是不犯法或正當的，但某某人偏偏阻擋您不讓您去實現，您會怎樣？

前幾天，小妹對著媽說她想過了農歷新年後到新加坡工作，媽聽後立刻反對。反對聲浪傳到我這裡，我看見兩方都不開心。我最清楚媽在想甚麼，媽是擔心小妹一人在外國沒人照顧，撐不住。小妹呢，更不用說，她要甚麼都希望得到。中間人最難做，為了雙贏局面，我終於想到了怎樣讓兩方完美收場。

我先讓小妹對我訴苦，完了，到我這做哥哥的“開槍罵人”了。我對小妹說，如果她真的很想在新加坡創事業，我是一百巴仙支持她。但現在是十一月，離開農歷新年還有大約兩個月，我對妹說不如過了農歷新年後如果真的找到了工，那才正式對媽說吧，畢竟大家還不知道是否會找到工作，現在不必白說空頭話。妹聽了感覺明白了些，當然我這做哥哥的是以真心來支持她，這畢竟是她的夢想與心愿，沒有阻擋的必要。輪到媽時，我對她說既然妹有她的夢想，就讓她試試吧，如果成功創出一片天地，做媽的也會高興吧。如果失敗，撐不住，至少她會想到家人，想到祖國，家人還是會疼愛她，歡迎她回家在祖國工作。媽聽後靜靜地，但還是有點堅持她的想法，我看得出她在想甚麼，但至少我讓她明白甚麼是個人的夢想與心愿。

做完中間人後，事情可說暫時告一段落，我當然希望所說的會成為最終的目標與答案。

“Freedom”, I believe everyone is desire to having it. “Dream”, I believe everyone pursuit or ambition to it, in order to complete or achieve what human desire about (their wishes). If you have a dream or a wish, the dream is legitimate by the law after achieved, but someone stop you to achieve your dream, what will you do or what do you feel?

Few days ago, younger sister told Mom that she has a wish or dream to work at Singapore after Chinese New Year, Mom against her after listened to what sister told about. I knew it just after a moment, both of them is not happy. I understand what Mom thought than anyone else is, she worried sister working alone at foreign country and no one takes care of her and will give up later. I understand what sister thinking too, what she desires she will get it or achieve it at the end. I became the middle man, in order to have a win-win situation, I had an idea finally.

I let sister complained what ever she don’t like to me first, and then is my turn to “scold” her. I told her if she really want to work at Singapore, I’m 100% support her. But now is November, still have around 2 months to go for Chinese New Year. I told her wait until if she really appointed by any company, then only officially told Mom about the career rather than told Mom now cause we do not know whether she will really appointed by any company or not. She seems like understand something after listened to what my suggestion, but of course this is my true support from my heart, no point to stop her from what she wanted for her dream. Now is Mom’s turn, I told her since sister has a dream, let her try. If she success in what she wanted for her dream, at lease Mom will be glad. If she fail and give up, at least she would think of her family, think of her country; family still will love her, welcome her back to work at her own country. Mom became silent after all, but yet she still persist her own thinking. I understand what she’s thinking, but at least I let her understand what personal dream is and aspiration of someone.

After all, the case considered come to the end for the time being and of course I do hope what I said will become the final result.